Thursday, January 28, 2010

Seventeen

SEVENTEEN months and counting. Wow, if you had asked me a year ago if I thought we would still be here waiting I would have said no way, but as they say in International Adoption, expect the unexpected. I remember my social worker telling me back in May that "it could be anytime now", funny how I felt so much closer to getting "the call" back then then I do now.

Waiting, that is a word we hear over and over again in adoption. Waiting for this piece of paperwork to come in, waiting for this appointment or that appointment, waiting for the referral, then waiting again for more paperwork to fall into place, and what must be the hardest wait of the them all waiting for that anticipated travel call to go lay your eyes on your precious child in person. Disclaimer: I take no responsibility for my actions, words or emotions when I am finally in that stage of waiting.

Funny little things that I have realized while waiting...

*Since it is now 2010, we have officially been in the waiting stage in 2008, 2009 and 2010 (doesn't 2008 sound like an eternity ago?)

*Both of my boys have teachers that have been blessed by adoption. In fact both of Landon's teachers Aide's have adopted.

*When you meet someone else whose lives have been touched by adoption you feel an almost instant bond

*Who knew you could actually go from Friday being the most looked forward to day of the week to it being dreaded and Monday being the new favorite

*There is nothing better than hearing my boys talk about their sister, pray for her, draw pictures of our family including her etc.. Leyton, who just turned 4 randomly blurted out yesterday "when is Sadie coming home", so sweet and so heart wrenching at the same time, I know this wait has been hard for them too.

*Men and women handle the wait in completely DIFFERENT ways lol! Neither one bad or good, right or wrong, just very very different. Is this just me who thinks this???

*Waiting this long with no control over any of it makes me think and rethink the only thing I do have control over, what we will name her. Sadie???????

I know I am missing a ton of thoughts here so stay tuned or please reply with your thoughts, I am sure there are some good ones to add!


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10 comments:

sue said...

my favorite is looking forward to mondays and dreading fridays! so true!

i also found myself rummaging through the mail ignoring personal card type envelopes and searching for legal type government issued envelopes!

Audrey said...

Aw, Megan. Last Spring, I never would have thought you'd still be waiting either. I'm so sorry you've been waiting so long.

Your boys are so sweet!! My 3 1/2 year old asks about her baby brother all of the time - then I realize how much our 'baby' has grown during this wait and that she is really ready to become a big sister.

I also totally get the men vs. women comment. :)

Grace said...

Thanks for sharing Megan...I know the wait can be so hard. We actually were initially planning to adopt from China and were waiting and waiting for about 5 years until I turned 30 (b/c both parents have to be 30 to start the process) and when we finally hit that time, China's wait became excruciatingly long...which is why we switched over...and of course now, we are stuck in the EP waiting. Hang in there...I know a girl referral is coming up soon!

Min said...

Megan, You have a great summary. You are so right.

I am praying that you get a referral before 18.

Hugs,
Min

Jen said...

I am praying that your wait isn't much longer!

Christine said...

Waiting is so hard because like you said, we have no control over it. At least you are able to use this time to prepare your boys and meet more people who have been touched by adoption. Sadie will come at the right time! Hang in there!

Tiffany said...

When we were waiting I remember that we got the call just when I thought I absolutely couldn't take the wait any longer - like it was physically painful. I remember that most of the referrals at that time happened on Thursday and so I lived for Thursday and then went into a mild depression every Thursday night. Now, a little over one year since our referral it feels like the time flew. If someone would have told me that two years ago I would have thought they were crazy. :)

Katie said...

I can't believe it has been 17 months either. I remember when I got Opal's referral and emailed you that night to tell you. I was sure that we would be celebrating Sadie within a few months.

You have had incredible patience and strength through this wait. You have been so supportive of everyone. You are now #2 on "the list" and your phone just HAS to ring SOON!!!

I can't wait to celebrate with you when you get Sadie's picture and see what your baby girl looks like!

Kara said...

Ugh! I can't believe it has been that long. I hope that things begin to move again and that your call comes soon. And I totally agree about men and women handling it differently. Too funny.

Megan said...

Thanks for all the comments, prayers and support, it means a ton! I am glad I am not the only one who thinks men and women handle the wait differently lol!